Why are so Many People Afraid to be Alone?

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In today's blog post I want to talk about the art of being alone and why is it that people are afraid to be alone. We did a video sometime ago that looks at the difference between being alone and being lonely. Why is it that many persons are so afraid of being alone that they prefer to stay in a toxic relationship
If I had a dollar for every time I hear someone says I do not want to be alone I would be a millionaire by now. It is believed by many persons that in order to feel validated then someone has to be in their lives. I am not saying that it is not a fundamental need for humans to feel needed or want to be loved


However it is important to spend time with yourself and know who you are as a person. If you are not fulfilled as a person then chances are even in a relationship you will still feel empty because you will be relying on some else to make you feel whole
Being alone is a state of mind as there are many persons who are in a relationship and yet they still feel alone. The need to always be in a relationship stems out of fear as they are some persons who are afraid being by themselves. They are afraid of facing their insecurities therefore they think that being with someone makes them feel wanted


Then there are some people who do not want to be alone because of social pressure. According to Social norms if you are not married or in a relationship then something is wrong with you. Because of this idea many persons especially women will force themselves into relationships even when it is unhealthy
Many persons as soon as they end one relationship they will start another without giving themselves time to heal from one relationship before starting another. the dysfunction and baggage will be a continuous cycle. these type of people always blame their partners instead of seeing where the problem lies
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We must take the time to spend time with ourselves and find out who we are. You cannot love someone fully until you are aware of who you are . if
you are afraid to be alone then you must face this fear by having honest discussions with yourself


write down on paper what your feelings are about being alone and why is it you have these feeling. When you are not in a relationship how does that makes you feel ? continue to write down the pros and cons to being in a relationship
based on the outcome of what you have written if you need help to work through your feelings then you should seek professional help or speak with someone
Please note I am not saying that it is wrong for people to want to be in a relationship but we have been socialized to feel that something is wrong with people who choose to be alone . We have been programmed to believe that we must always have someone in our life, therefore many persons are afraid to be alone
many people have become obsessed with always having someone in their life. People with today's social media are so afraid to be lonely that they do not give themselves time to heal and assessed themselves after a break up
we see this with many holly wood stars who go in and out of relationships and therefore you have many ordinary persons who also try to imitate this lifestyle in the social media era. they need to always have someone to post so others can see
The need to be love, understood and cared for is important with the right person and for the right reasons at the right time. These needs are biological therefore it is not that it is wrong to want to be with someone. The issue is the fear to be alone that many persons will remain in unhealthy relationships or repeat the process of toxic relationships and yet refuse to see the problem lies within themselves
Learn to be alone for a while and reflect on yourself when you have ended a relationship . Take time to heal and take time for yourself . Know that it is ok to be alone, it is ok to spend time with your self


Being alone is not a bad thing nor is wanting to be in a relationship, the point is knowing thats it ok either way therefore you do not feel pressured to be in a relationship just to appease social norms


simplify your life by spending time with yourself. learn to meditate and be alone for a few minutes each day even if you are in a relationship . Appreciate that being with someone will not make you happy . When we learn to be still we appreciate who we are and learn about ourselves. When you do get into a relationship you will have a deeper understanding of who you are. leave your comments below
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